The Merriam Webster Dictionary describes “criticism” as “a negative statement or comment, generally unfavourably the act of criticizing.” Did you ever have an experience where anyone told you how overweight you instantly became? Or even your manager reflected on how poor your role turned out to be? Perhaps you have learned from other people how people see you as a proud and unapproachable type?
Believe it or not, certain persons can be so undiplomatic that they are not even conscious that when they damage others’ feelings, the receiving parties, particularly the vulnerable people, may be insulted by their statements, which will inevitably contribute to disagreements and disputes.
Your key thoughts may be to help them hold their lifestyle or wellbeing in order, but instead of getting offended by your direct remarks or remarks, will they know your good intentions?
Maybe they may think you’re impolite. But what would you do if you have to profess truthful critique, but risk harming others’ feelings?
Here’s the key now.
What you have to do is sandwich between two constructive comments with your critical statement.
For starters, Bassey, your best friend, is going on his very first date. He’s all ready and willing to get moving. You realize that Bassey has little fashion sense whatsoever. He’s sporting old denim with a bland tee. How he hates to accept mistakes, you know very well. What should you do to save Bassey from an embarrassing first date?
Will you advise him directly that the suit he carries is appalling? It would cause his ego to hurt.
Then, put your point of view and suggestions into a nice and suave strategy. Anything you should say to him should be like:
Your shirt looks very good, Bassey, and I believe Becky (his date) would be even more pleased because this is your very first date if you decided to wear anything like the outfit you wore on my birthday. When you put on clothing such as that, you seem irresistible.
Create another optimistic declaration afterwards. There’s something you might tell like:
You’re going to leave a huge impact on Becky. Over your good look and cheery attitude, she will drop heads over heels. Have a wonderful time, Bassey, on your date.
Do you believe that Bassey will be insulted by a sweet remark like that? Among a multitude of appropriate and ego-boosting statements, you have wittingly added mildly derogatory reviews.
People usually enjoy compliments; they imagine they’ve got the calibre. They like other entities to magnify the talents they consider they have. People want to hear others speak of their greatness and their qualities, and if others know about it, they’ll be very happy.
So if you’re going to judge someone, remember first to compliment him or her. It’s going to leave a good feeling that you are a pretty person. And, but in a nice and non-offensive way, state what you have to state. To set a tempo for friendship, finalize with another optimistic comment.