You probably might be in a relationship, but one thing leading to the other maybe he/she got a Job or maybe had to study outside your primary location hence, leading to a distance amongst you. So let’s Consider some “do’s and don’ts” of a distance relationship that will help you keep your relationship in check.
- Establish an effective communication channel
Establishing an very effective communication channel should be the very first thing that you must do in a distance relationship, in todays tech world there are diverse ways of communication platforms from Instant messengers, emails to social media platforms, the likes of facebook, twitter, instagram, Imo, whatsapp messenger and many more. Therefore you have to explore each of them to enhance your communication experience.
- Schedule a Plan to meet each other
Scheduling a meeting Plan to meet each other at an interval of time throughout the period of your distance relationship is very essential. This will help both you and your partner to catch up with each other over the things you couldn’t do while apart. The anticipation of seeing each other again will always give you the excitement.
- Build a hobby that you can both share
Building and keeping a hobby you both can share is very important. Doing so, both of you will have something to discuss and work on throughout your distance apart. If you both Find something to do online, it can be quite interesting judging from its speed and reach-ability.
- Surprise your partner
Occasionally surprise your partner with gifts, cards and flower out of their expectations. Sending some unexpected gifts from time to time to your partner will always spice up your distance relationship regardless how far your partner may be.
- Capture and share that interesting moment
Often times, capture some interesting moment of yours and engage yourselves in exchange of photos and video clips and as well as audio recordings. This will indirectly keep your partner informed on what has happened in your life despite the physical distance.
- Settling for a temporary replacement
Settling for a temporary replacement is one of the biggest mistake you’ll make when your partner is not physically around. By Letting a third party into your life, you will not only put your distance relationship to risk but you will also break the mutual trust and agreement that you make. Although it may not be done intentionally but this type of mistake can be very disastrous to your relationsip.
- Taking the relationship lightly
The distance of your partner does not give you the license to dictate and manipulate the relationship. always have in mind that, your partner has his/her own right to participate in any decision making towards the well being of your relationship regardless the distance. A long distance relationship is also as important as a normal relationship and your partner has every right to be treated fairly.
- The Wait and see attitude
50% of the failures in a distance relationship we see today are attributed to the wait and see attitude of the couples themselves. This is often caused by the insecurity of the couple as they do not think that the distance relationship would work but at the same time they do not want to put an end to the relationship. In a long distance relationship, both partners must be committed and proactive in bringing the relationship to a higher level.
There should be no room for suspicion in a long distance relationship. In order to survive your distance relationship, you must learn to trust your partner whole heartedly. Suspicion will break the bond you have for each other and it is a beginning of the end if you start suspecting your partner at any point of your distance relationship. Although it is easier said than done but trust me, if your partner is inclined to do something unfaithful to you, they will still do it under your nose. Therefore there is no need for you to create such unnecessary stress in your distance relationship.
- Yielding to negative comments about Distance Relationships
Yielding to negative comments about Distance Relationships is a very important “don’t” you must not adhere to. The negative impressions you hear about Distance Relationships will eventually hunt you down and destroy your relationship if you choose to listen to them. Therefore, once you decide to engage in a distance relationship, you have to learn to believe that your relationship will work, yes you can make it work, all you need is maturity and understanding.
Let’s Hear your thoughts.
Have you ever been in a distance relationship or currently in one? What are or were your challenges?